How to Love
We tell people “I love you” and we want others to “love” us.
But how do you actually define “love”?
While there are many definitions out there, I’d like to share one that I find particularly insightful. It’s the definition that the ancient Chinese had in mind when they created the pictorial word for “love”.
The traditional Chinese character for love is 愛. The inside is 心, which means heart, and the outside is 受, which means to feel. Therefore, ancient Chinese people defined love as using your heart to feel what the other person needs.
Love is when parents use their focused attention (heart) to feel what their young child, who can not yet speak, needs.
Love is when you use your heart to feel what the other person has not said they need, but you can feel that they need.
Love is not forcing others to do something or be some way because you “love” them.
So the next time you want to be loving, use your heart to feel the other person’s needs.