From Anger to Peace in Ten Minutes

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  1. Arrogance: We care more about being right than their feelings
  2. Selfishness: We care more about what we want than their feelings (greed)
  3. Greed: We are too demanding
  4. Negativity: We focus on the bad instead of the good
  5. Fragile self-esteem: We care too much about what everyone thinks
  6. Discomfort: We are feeling agitated or uncomfortable or in pain
  1. Reciprocity: Treat others the way you want to be treated.
  2. Love: Value their feelings more than the matter at hand.
  3. Humility: Look for where you could have done better.
  4. Empathy: Understand their perspective.
  5. Gratitude: Think about all that they have given to you.
  6. Virtuous Role Models: Think about what good and wise teachers would think of your behavior.

The Story

  1. Reciprocity: If I made a mistake and felt bad about it, I wouldn’t want the other person to angrily scold me.
  2. Love: I should value the other person’s feelings more than the matter at hand.
  3. Humility: What could I have done better to prevent this problem from arising? Well, I could have communicated with my mom where my important documents and ID cards are so that she knows not to move them.
  4. Empathy: She didn’t intentionally make a mistake. She didn’t know my wallet was in that bag.
  5. Gratitude: Without my mom, I wouldn’t even exist or have the life that I have right now, so it is quite spoiled of me to get angry at her.
  6. Virtuous Role Models: I imagined I was facing Confucius, Seneca, and the Buddha. What would they say to me? They would be very disappointed to see me be a slave to anger, and they would be proud to see me be the master of my emotions.





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Passionate about self-cultivation, happiness, and sharing wisdom.

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