How to Not Care About What Others Think — Recently, a friend asked me for help with self-esteem. She told me she wished she could be skinnier, but she doesn’t think it is for health reasons because if it was truly for health reasons, she would be willing to make herself go through the suffering of restricting her diet…

Is there a best personality? An optimal personality? A well-balanced personality? These are questions I’ve been pondering ever since a couple of years ago, when I became fascinated with personality. I studied various personality tests such as DISC: useful for teamwork Four Tendencies: useful for getting ourselves and people to…

When we understand The Middle Way, we don’t ask if something is good or bad. Instead, we ask if WE are following The Middle Way. — Is excitement good? Is criticizing others bad? Is it better to talk too much or talk too little? If your answer is, “You need just the right amount,” then you are a wise person! Ancient philosophers call this principle The Middle Way. Another way to explain The Middle Way is…

“Virtue is how we live happy and free lives. It’s not grandiose nor vague. A Stoic believes they don’t control the world around them, only how they respond — and that they must always respond with courage, temperance, wisdom, and justice.” — Ryan Holiday, contemporary Stoic A good life. It’s…

Have you ever struggled to get out of bed in the morning? This past month, I’ve been very, very busy. As a result, I’ve gotten very tired, and my mood worsened. Recently, I found myself waking up and thinking, “Ugh, today I need to do this. Then I need to…

Most of us carefully choose how we spend our money. Some of us carefully choose how we spend our time. But few of us carefully choose how we think. Yet, out of these three things, which deserves our most caution and attention? The common maxim goes: “Sow a thought, reap…

Think back to the last time you got angry. What happened? I personally remember getting angry at the other person for not listening to me, but the other person was angry at me for not listening to them too. After venting anger, the relationship was damaged, and I then felt…

Don’t let the ANTs (Automatic Negative Thoughts) steal your happiness and ruin your life! — Do you ever have uncontrollable negative thoughts? Do you wish you could control or overcome those negative thoughts, but just don’t know how? I’ve been there, and I’m so grateful to Dr. Daniel Amen for putting together a really powerful yet simple-to-understand children’s book on this matter. …

Over the past couple of months, I’ve been focusing on managing my anger, frustration, annoyance, and impatience. …